About Hyla Molander

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I had every­thing I had ever wanted … right up until that Easter Sun­day din­ner when my 17-month-old daugh­ter and I watched as our beloved Erik slid down the kitchen counter and lay motion­less on our white-tiled floor.

Erik, 29, was a rising-star man­ager for Lucas Dig­i­tal and a devoted hus­band and father.  I was a suc­cess­ful North­ern Cal­i­for­nia children’s pho­tog­ra­pher, seven months preg­nant with our sec­ond child.

One minute we were laugh­ing, and thirty-five min­utes later, Erik was pro­nounced dead.

Never could I have imag­ined that this tragedy would teach me to live and twice inten­sity, but now, eight years later, I embrace each day with my new hus­band (Match​.com) and our four children.

Now, through my writ­ing and inspi­ra­tional speak­ing, I remind oth­ers to walk directly into their own dark­ness, so that they may feel the mag­nif­i­cence of even more light.

In that sec­ond when I real­ized my late hus­band would never take another breath, I knew I had to make mean­ing from my loss. What I didn’t know, though, was that my jour­ney would take me down the path of not only speak­ing to other peo­ple who had expe­ri­enced hard­ships, but also to giv­ing keynote pre­sen­ta­tions to cor­po­ra­tions, in which I help employ­ees reach their high­est poten­tial by iden­ti­fy­ing what is hold­ing them back from true success.

Believe. Define. Create.

I live by these three words.

Regard­less of our cir­cum­stances, we must believe that we deserve hap­pi­ness. Then, we must define exactly what that hap­pi­ness will look like. Once we become clear on our vision, we can cre­ate all that we desire in our lives.

When not speak­ing, chas­ing my chil­dren, or hik­ing the North­ern Cal­i­for­nia hills with my cam­era, I’m putting the final touches on my book, Secrets of Scribd Suc­cess: A Step-By-Step Guide for Writ­ers, Entre­pre­neurs, Non-Profits, and Cor­po­ra­tions on Grow­ing Your Audi­ence with Scribd​.com. This book was unex­pect­edly con­ceived after excerpts of my forth­com­ing mem­oir, Drop Dead Life: A Preg­nant Widow’s Heart­felt and Often Comic Jour­ney through Death, Birth, and Rebirth, accu­mu­lated 100k reads on Scribd in only 11 months.

I’ve also pub­lished Find­ing Light: Words and Images of Hope, which can be pre­viewed and pur­chased here.

Thank you for vis­it­ing my drop dead life.

Present Bliss 2010

Past Joy 2003

 

 

 

Love right now.